I relocated to Arizona from Texas eight years ago.
The wisdom of our Rabbis teaches us that a negative situation can become a positive situation, and for me it did just that!
I have two biological children from a previous marriage who, by now, are adult, but after much self-denial on my part, their lack of respect, caring and love for me, which are the essentials that any parent wants, led me to become a benefactor.
Many young adult children today think that just because they are flesh and blood, are entitled to and want your money, without conditions or strings attached.
My thoughts on this subject: Why should I leave them anything in death while in life I did not receive love and respect? Therefore, I am bequeathing to a candidate(s) who can benefit and be appreciative of the opportunity offered.
The reason for my writing this is that there is an alternative to giving to undeserving young adult children, which, unfortunately, many of us do. This negativity can be turned into a positive.
I hope that after reading my comments, other parents in this situation will do likewise.